When I was younger, I loved to hear personal compliments...how pretty I was, how nice my hair was, how "cool" I dressed. Now, however, I like to hear praises about my accomplishments, because I've worked so hard for things I've done.
Tam
I desire compliments about things I have done from everyone in the world except my husband. From him I want to hear the intimate compliments that come from sharing a life with someone. Of course, mostly I get "Did you get your hair cut?" about a month after the fact.
Cindy,
41
VA USA
It depends on the source of the compliment. In a work setting, I'd rather have the things I have done acknowledged. If it is a compliment from a personal friend or relative, then I value it depending on the sincerity of the compliment.
Jane,
63
West Linn, OR USA
if its something i worked hard on and am proud of, otherwise i guess i would say personal compliments are better
Cara,
18
Valparasio, IN USA
Either work. I'll take both when I can get them.
Ryan,
29
Morton, IL USA
I've never been big on compliments. I don't know how to react to them sometimes.
Stephanie,
25
TX USA
The nature of a compliment is less important to me than my opinion of the person giving the compliment. Compliments from people I respect are worth far more than fulsome praise from strangers or from people I would rather not know.
Jill,
61
Saylorsburg, PA USA
I like them more when they are about things I have done. That's more important to me than complimenting my character or looks.
Tracy,
24
Ocean City, NJ USA
Usually when they're about me personally.
Aly,
17
Cardiff UK
I like compliments when there about me, personally.
Savannah,
17
Melbourne, FL USA
I'm not sure I understand the distinction. If you're asking, say, whether I prefer compliments about my hair or compliments about my writing, I'd say that generally I prefer compliments about my writing--but some of each type of compliment is good.
Karen,
23
Ames, IA USA
I'll take a compliment any way I can get it, but I suppose for something I've done would be best.
Judy,
62
Easton, KS USA
I like any and all compliments, but I especially like compliments about the things I have done.
Reba,
57
Gaithersburg, MD USA
Both! I'll take all the compliments I can GET! haha
Fisch,
47
Preston, CT USA
I like personal compliements better than things about my achievements.
Em,
16
Harrisburg, PA USA
I like them when they are about things I've done.
Ashley,
20
Jacksonville, FL USA
On my accomplishments which I have lots more control over. But I appreciate any compliment that someone gives to me. Although I in general don't trust compliments.
Felicia,
36
Lowell, MA USA
There's nothing like hearing, "You look great are you losing weight?"
Janet,
45
E. Brunswick, NJ USA
I prefer compliments on my accomplishments. Although any compliment is welcome.
Laura,
37
Lowell, MA USA
I like them better when they're about things I've done. When they're personal, I get embarrassed.
Cathie,
53
Novi, MI USA
Equal, I guess. I don't get many. :-)
Firelady,
24
Frisco, TX USA
Things I've done. Like most girls, I have no idea how to take a compliment.
Keri-Jade,
23
Brampton, Ontario CANADA