September 7, 2001    





How do you throw a party?

Is this a trick question? I invite my guests, plan and prepare any refreshments and give the house at least a lick and a promise cleaning. When the guest arrive, the party has started. When the mess is  cleared away, the party is over.

Jill, 60


Karen, 21

I don't.

Johanna, 18

Trick someone else into doing it so you can actually enjoy it.

Alias Irrelevante

First I make sure it's at someone else's house. Then I get them to invite people. Next I make something nice to bring like a punch or a fruit platter. Then I dress well, show up slightly late and be ever gracious to the host(s).

Jaden, 21
Brampton, Ontario  CANADA

I get a good group of people together and provide good food and drink. The size, formality, and trimmings may vary.

Jane, 60
West Linn
, OR   USA

I usually don't. I like to attend holiday parties, but that's about it.

Fisch, 46
, CT   USA

I say to my boyfriend, "Hey babe...throw a party?!?!!!"

Firelady, 23
, TX   USA

Usually just a spontaneous get together deal-I just call people up and invite them over, tell them to bring something. I'm not really a planning type of gal.

Angela, 16
Bella Vista

I don't entertain in my house much. When I do it is usually a small gathering of 15 or so folks. Invites ususally sent as an email message. Snacky type offerings the standards (tortilla chips and salsa, hummus and pita bread, wine, beer). Last two parties I actually make fancy pates and dips and spent hours cooking. Have to say this really paid off. I have low key music in the background and encourage guests to select their own to play. I have wisened up that it is a good idea to have some conversation starters out (I.e., trivia question cards, magnetic poetry, tantagram puzzle pieces, a child or a pet). This helps in focussing some energy. There is never dancing or extreme drunkedness at parties I through. Not that I would object, it just is never the tenor of my gatherings.

Felicia, 35
, MA   USA

I don't. I have like 3 groups of friends and they don't get along.

Dianne, 16
Ontario  CANADA

very carefully

Melodi, 19
, OH   USA

This year...probably a BIG Halloween bash for our friends. If the weather's nice a barbecue, if not party food inside. Lot's of drinks too :0)

Tracy, 24
Ocean City

. . . with much anxiety, followed by either profound disappointment or joyous celebration over its success. . .

mothmc, 37
Los Angeles

We generally host from five to twenty-five people maybe three times a year. From what I can tell, most of the effort goes into cleaning, some into decorating, and some into planning what to feed guests.  Our parties typically last for a weekend at least, so we have to plan sleeping space for guests as well.

etoile, 20

On the rare occasion I want to throw a party, I usually scrap the idea and go to one that's actually been organised.

Shanna, 16
Cardiff  ENGLAND

I throw great parties. My teenage kids stay and invite their friends over to hang at our parties. Have great home-made food, alcohol, snacks, music, a few cool decorations (candles, lights) and great people. Make them feel special! The more the merrier!!!!!

Janet, 44
E. Brunswick,

With lots of sketchy punch and crazy (19)80s music. =)

Eric, 19
Beverly Hills

1. Invite a mix of people who would not ordinarily meet each other.  Children should always be welcome but you have to be prepared with things for them to do.
2. Serve simple, but substantial food (sandwich fixings, hamburgers or something like that) so people aren't drinking on an empty stomach.
3. Serve simple drinks like soda, juice, beer and wine.
4. Most important! Have something to do. Games (cards, Scrabble, Risk, charades, etc), dancing, singing, etc. And you can't expect the guests to just start... the hosts must initiate whatever the activites are. My husband and I host very good parties. When we lived in Georgia, our parties were so well known that people would come whom we didn't know and the house would be packed.

Laura, 36
, MA   USA

I'm a loser with no friends. I dont throw parties.

Talia, 24
, CT   USA

With a siphon and two cases of Blue Ribbon. And all my good buddies to watch the shit go down.

A-Dog, 18

I throw a huge party in my paretns house every year for my birthday. Its always a big occassion, as I have tons of friends all over the country I dont get to see often, and they all get invited, as well as my more local friends. There are always lollipops, pizza and punch, and lots of drunken people doing things we can all gosip about for the forseeable future. My parents house is very good for parties, as the garden is so big, and we have no expensive stuff that could easily be broken.

Alice, 21
Winchester  UK

I don't usually throw throw them. I attend them, but they always have drinks and cool music.


I start by finding a nice safe place to lose my mind, because that's the only way I can ever throw a party. Then, I clean the house (which is a really dumb thing to do right before a messy party, but as we know, I've lost my mind). I gather up the cans and bottles that are inevitably left over from my last party, take them back, and use the money to buy beer. Then I call the people in my Rolodex and put them to work spreading the word. Then I clean out the fridge to make room for beer - my parties are always BYOB events. Mix accordingly, shake well. Viola!

Kristin, 20

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