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Do
you hold a grudge?Usually for about 24 hours. I eventually get over it, but
for some reason, I need that full day to sort everything out in my mind and come to terms
with things. If I feel I cannot let it go, I usually don't associate with that particular
person anymore. That rarely happens. Things usually roll off my back very easily...but
when it's been a personal assault, it takes me a full day to recover.
Fisch, 45
Preston, CT
USA
I rarely hold grudges. Holding a grudge
requires far too much energy.
Jane, 60
West Linn, OR
USA
Not really.
Angela, 16
Bella Vista, AR USA
I try not to...but it's so hard
Jaden, 21
Brampton, Ontario CANADA
Rarely, but when pushed to extremes
yes and then for very long times.
Felicia, 35
Lowell, MA
USA
YES< I DO HOLD GRUDGES
Stickman, 27
SOUTH AFRICA
I know it's not the healthiest thing in the
world but I've got to admit I've held several and there are still people I don't like even
though I haven't talked to them in a few years.
Alias Irrelevante
NO I DON'T HOLD GRUDGES. I MAY NOT AGREE
WITH EVERYTHING A PERSON SAY'S OR DOES BUT THAT IS THEM.
Marci, 56
Diamond, OH
USA
naw, i can't usually hold grudges for very
long. i've done it, but i always end up not caring about whatever happened in the end. I'm
a pretty forgiving person, or so i'm told lol.
Dianne, 16
Ontario CANADA
No. If I want mercy, I must extend
forgiveness to others.
Laura, 36
Lowell, MA
USA
I tend to hold grudges, but I try to use
tongs and I almost always wear a muzzle.
Jill, 60
Saylorsburg, PA USA
Yes.
Talia, 24
Wilton, CT
USA
Yeah, but it never affects my behavior. It
should, but it doesn't. I'll keep acting nice to a person until the grudge goes away,
usually withing a few encounters with that person.
Johanna, 18
OK USA
sometimes
Mandi, 16
Lake City, MN
USA
I don't hold grudges. Jesus teaches in the
Bible that it is not, as a good Christian, to hold a grudge...but to forgive.
Melodi, 19
Gahanna, OH
USA
Yes
Sapphire, 31
Ft. Lauderdale, FL USA
I can hold a grudge. But, eventually, I
figure what's the point? The other person probably doesn't even know I'm mad, so I'm the
only one being affected by my grudge. You have to learn to let go.
Jennifer, 19
Wilkes-Barre, PA USA
Not very well.
Karen, 21
Marshalltown/Ames, IA USA
No, I don't have much a a long or short term
memory to remember I'm mad at someone. Besides, that takes too much energy.
Janet, 44
E. Brunswick, NJ USA
I try to but it doesn't work. Never been
able to stay mad more than a day. Sometimes only an hour or so.
Reba, 51+
Silver Spring, MD USA
Why is it that you hold a grudge, but bury a
hatchet? What happens to the grudge? Is it some kind of coccoon for the hatchet? Does it
require a lot of care? How long is the gestation period? What type of food do grudges eat?
Do you have to hold it all the time, or can you put it in your pocket once in awhile? When
the hatchet hatches, do you bury it immediately, or do you keep it as a pet? Do they die
quickly, or do you bury them alive? Do you bury the grudge with it, or do you just toss it
in the garbage can?
Oh, the question...right...sorry. Only for
guys. Three strikes and you're out.
Kristin, 20
IA USA
nope. . a complete waste of time and energy.
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mothmc, 36
Los Angeles, CA USA
Although
I try not to, more often than not it's too hard.
Shanna, 16
Cardiff ENGLAND
no.
Patty
First of
all, I'd like to say I'M BACK! I haven't been reading my 2000 Days emails because I
changed email addresses and rarely check my old one.
YES, I do hold grudges. I really wish I
didn't but I can't help it. I almost gave up a friendship during the last big grudge that
I held....My newborn baby (I know...yawn...remember me? the one who always had to talk
about my pregnancy problems and preemie baby?) Anyway, my 2-week-old baby was still in the
neonatal intensive care unit and I was about to go crazy from stress and heartache. We had
just moved to a new house (bad timing) and my husband and I were too busy to be at home
for the phone guy to hook up our phone. We were using our cell phones for everything. A
friend of mine kept asking me how she could help out during this turbulant time in our
lives. I never wanted to ask for help but I finally broke down and asked if she could come
to our house for a few hours to let in the phone guy. She told me that she would do it
only if she were the "last resort" because she really wanted to go to her spin
class at the gym that morning. Actually, her exact words were that it would have to be the
"worst case scenario"!! She had left this message on voicemail so I didn't have
to respond to her immediately, thank goodness. I hung up the phone and cried. I thought
what kind of bullshit friend is this? I was living a nightmare! Seriously, those weeks
were the worst weeks of my entire life. And that bitch didn't want to miss her damn spin
class to help me out for a few hours? All she had to do was sit at my house and watch tv
or read or something. I had too much emotional stress to deal with her so I ignored her
message and never mentioned it to her again. I was cold to her for months. She couldn't
figure out why I was so cold. Dumb bitch. Eventually, I got over it but our friendship has
never been the same.
Susan, 32
Chicago, IL
USA
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