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Do you hold a grudge?

Usually for about 24 hours. I eventually get over it, but for some reason, I need that full day to sort everything out in my mind and come to terms with things. If I feel I cannot let it go, I usually don't associate with that particular person anymore. That rarely happens. Things usually roll off my back very easily...but when it's been a personal assault, it takes me a full day to recover.

Fisch, 45
Preston
, CT   USA

I rarely hold grudges. Holding a grudge requires far too much energy.

Jane, 60
West Linn
, OR   USA

Not really.

Angela, 16
Bella Vista
, AR  USA

I try not to...but it's so hard

Jaden, 21
Brampton, Ontario  CANADA

Rarely, but when pushed to extremes yes and then for very long times.

Felicia, 35
Lowell
, MA   USA

YES< I DO HOLD GRUDGES

Stickman, 27
SOUTH AFRICA

I know it's not the healthiest thing in the world but I've got to admit I've held several and there are still people I don't like even though I haven't talked to them in a few years.

Alias Irrelevante

NO I DON'T HOLD GRUDGES. I MAY NOT AGREE WITH EVERYTHING A PERSON SAY'S OR DOES BUT THAT IS THEM.

Marci, 56
Diamond
, OH   USA

naw, i can't usually hold grudges for very long. i've done it, but i always end up not caring about whatever happened in the end. I'm a pretty forgiving person, or so i'm told lol.

Dianne, 16
Ontario  CANADA

No. If I want mercy, I must extend forgiveness to others.

Laura, 36
Lowell
, MA   USA

I tend to hold grudges, but I try to use tongs and I almost always wear a muzzle.

Jill, 60
Saylorsburg
, PA  USA

Yes.

Talia, 24
Wilton
, CT   USA

Yeah, but it never affects my behavior. It should, but it doesn't. I'll keep acting nice to a person until the grudge goes away, usually withing a few encounters with that person.

Johanna, 18
OK  USA

sometimes

Mandi, 16
Lake City
, MN   USA

I don't hold grudges. Jesus teaches in the Bible that it is not, as a good Christian, to hold a grudge...but to forgive.

Melodi, 19
Gahanna
, OH   USA

Yes

Sapphire, 31
Ft. Lauderdale
, FL  USA

I can hold a grudge. But, eventually, I figure what's the point? The other person probably doesn't even know I'm mad, so I'm the only one being affected by my grudge. You have to learn to let go.

Jennifer, 19
Wilkes-Barre
, PA   USA

Not very well.

Karen, 21
Marshalltown/Ames
, IA  USA

No, I don't have much a a long or short term memory to remember I'm mad at someone. Besides, that takes too much energy.

Janet, 44
E. Brunswick
, NJ  USA

I try to but it doesn't work. Never been able to stay mad more than a day. Sometimes only an hour or so.

Reba, 51+
Silver Spring
, MD  USA

Why is it that you hold a grudge, but bury a hatchet? What happens to the grudge? Is it some kind of coccoon for the hatchet? Does it require a lot of care? How long is the gestation period? What type of food do grudges eat? Do you have to hold it all the time, or can you put it in your pocket once in awhile? When the hatchet hatches, do you bury it immediately, or do you keep it as a pet? Do they die quickly, or do you bury them alive? Do you bury the grudge with it, or do you just toss it in the garbage can?

Oh, the question...right...sorry. Only for guys. Three strikes and you're out.

Kristin, 20
IA  USA

nope. . a complete waste of time and energy. .

mothmc, 36
Los Angeles
, CA  USA

Although I try not to, more often than not it's too hard.

Shanna, 16
Cardiff  ENGLAND

no.

Patty

First of all, I'd like to say I'M BACK! I haven't been reading my 2000 Days emails because I changed email addresses and rarely check my old one.

YES, I do hold grudges. I really wish I didn't but I can't help it. I almost gave up a friendship during the last big grudge that I held....My newborn baby (I know...yawn...remember me? the one who always had to talk about my pregnancy problems and preemie baby?) Anyway, my 2-week-old baby was still in the neonatal intensive care unit and I was about to go crazy from stress and heartache. We had just moved to a new house (bad timing) and my husband and I were too busy to be at home for the phone guy to hook up our phone. We were using our cell phones for everything. A friend of mine kept asking me how she could help out during this turbulant time in our lives. I never wanted to ask for help but I finally broke down and asked if she could come to our house for a few hours to let in the phone guy. She told me that she would do it only if she were the "last resort" because she really wanted to go to her spin class at the gym that morning. Actually, her exact words were that it would have to be the "worst case scenario"!! She had left this message on voicemail so I didn't have to respond to her immediately, thank goodness. I hung up the phone and cried. I thought what kind of bullshit friend is this? I was living a nightmare! Seriously, those weeks were the worst weeks of my entire life. And that bitch didn't want to miss her damn spin class to help me out for a few hours? All she had to do was sit at my house and watch tv or read or something. I had too much emotional stress to deal with her so I ignored her message and never mentioned it to her again. I was cold to her for months. She couldn't figure out why I was so cold. Dumb bitch. Eventually, I got over it but our friendship has never been the same.

Susan, 32
Chicago
, IL   USA

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