Telling them directly.
Karen,
23
Ames, IA USA
Good question. I've got no game. I've never been a sucsessfull pursuer. I have to wait for the weird ones to come to me. I'll be checking out the answers.
A-Dog,
20
Eugene, OR USA
The most effective strategy I ever used (I used it on my wife) was honesty and patience. The night I met her for the first time, when I was leaving her apartment, I simply told her I had a great time and that I really hoped I'd get to see her again. Then, I told her I'd better get going and I left. I didn't try to kiss her or be overbearing. That shocked her as she was used to guys just moving straight in for the kill. I used patience, not wanting to screw it up and it worked.
Doug2,
30
Kansas City, KS USA
I have never been very aggressive in this area, so I have a tendancy to wait until someone falls my way. With my husband, a mutual friend - someone I thought was interested in me - suggested that he ask me out. It took Kenny several months to actually get around to it. Our first date was the week after Valentine's Day in 2001. We were engaged in June and married in September.
Cindy,
41
VA USA
Usually just saying that I'm interested. I believe in honesty and I never play games.
Keri-Jade,
23
Brampton, Ontario CANADA
It's been so long, I've forgotten. I think I used to smile a lot and ask them questions about themselves.
Judy,
62
Easton, KS USA
By far the most effective way to let someone know you are interested in them is to simply tell them. There have been times when I've wanted to be more subtle and then I do simple things like listening attentively, complimenting the person, inviting the person to join me in various activities.
Laura,
38
Lowell, MA USA
Smiles ... and perhaps a nice (but always true) compliment. Jeeze, I haven't had to think about this for some time now. In the past I've probably gone out of my way to make an extra nice appearance if I know I'm going to see the person.
Fisch,
47
Preston, CT USA
Smiling and saying, "Hello."
Jill,
61
Saylorsburg, PA USA
When he asked me to marry him, I said "Yes."
Reba,
57
Gaithersburg, MD USA
Telling them.
Alias Irrelevante
Getting drunk to build up my confidence, and saying more than I would otherwise.
Aly,
17
Cardiff UK
It's been a while -- I'm not sure I remember any particular strategy.
Jane,
63
West Linn, OR USA
Just being myself is the most effective method.
Tam
It's been so long that I can't even remember!
Tracy,
24
Ocean City, NJ USA
Flirting
Stephanie,
27
TX USA
As I'm still single, I have found that none of my strategies have worked.
Ryan,
29
Riedlingen GERMANY
I have been married for so laong that I don't know how to let someone know that I'm attracted to them. Sorry no pointers from me.
KarenNJ,
25
Milltown, NJ USA