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Have
you ever been afraid that you would be physically assaulted?last night I was
afraid for my safety... odd this question should come today. I work as a waitress at a
bar/restaurant and last night I was working the bar. This big football player type guy
kept bothering me and following me around. He boxed me in to the bar as I was trying to
leave. He kept telling me I was a nice person and he just wanted to be my
"friend"...he was telling me that he knew I was special and that he thought we'd
be "a good pair". I got really scared and I didn't want to leave by myself. The
bartender asked a friend of his to pose as my boyfriend so I could get out of there
without him following me. Very creepy.
Maggie, 22
Sandwich, IL
USA
Unfortunately, yes. I spent some time
married to a man who resorted tophysical abuse when he felt mentally threatened. Two of my
stepsons have threatened violence.
Jill, 61
Saylorsburg, PA USA
Sometimes. I am definitely more cautious now
than when I was younger. I get a bit apprehensive when I go in NYC and I am not sure where
I am going. I work in Newark, NJ which is not the safest of places. So I remain alert when
I am getting off the train and walking downtown.
Janet, 44
E. Brunswick, NJ USA
That was a common and justified fear
growing up. Can't say it's happened lately.
Alias Irrelevante
Yes -- I was mugged once. The boys knocked
me to the ground, and I feared further attacks, but they just took my handbag and ran.
Jane, 62
West Linn, OR
USA
I have lived in many "sketchy"
areas, travelled cross-country on my own and moved freely in all sorts of environments. I
have had very little fear about physical harm. However, I now find myself casually
connected to a person who has major beefs with me and have to admit that he strikes me as
someone who could easily beat me up if angered. I don't like the feeling at all.
Felicia, 36
Lowell, MA
USA
Yes, especially when it is late at night and
I am in a dangerous area. I usually don't put myself in that predicament, but it does
happen once in a while on accident.
Melodi, 19
Gahanna, OH
USA
I live in NYC, so it's a real fear
that I should have, but I have an enormous sense of
security here. Part of it is that I never let myself be in a vulnerable situation alone.
When I'm not alone, I know that only 1 person in that entire crowd is likely to be a
mugger, so everyone's in the same boat. I come from a small college town, though, and I'm
usually more afraid there. A lot of girls get raped walking home from night classes. I
think I'm just as unsafe in my small hometown as I am in NYC. Fear is something I can't
let show, though, because my chances of being assulted are certainly greater. Carry
yourself like you might be the perpetrator and you're not likely to be a victim.
Emily
NYC, NY USA
Very much so...on several occasions (mostly
when I was a teen). Kinda goes with the territory of growing up in a huge,
multi-cultural city during the 60's and early 70s when extreme racial issues were a big
part of everyday existence. It's also a part of marrying a wing-nut with major issues!
That was like sitting on a powder keg while holding a match. I don't worry about such
things anymore.
Fisch, 46
Preston, CT
USA
Of course, I live in Houston.
Laney
TX USA
yeah, when i went to Robzombie and Megedeth
wearing a bright yellow girls tanktop and red converse sneakers. That and i cut about two
hours ahead in the line.
A-Dog, 19
McMinnville, OR USA
I'm a woman, I've been afraid
several times in my life. One instance: I had a friend
ditch me for her boyfriend at 1 AM on University campus. I had no way to get home but to
walk alone for about 2 miles. Thankfully nothing happened, but I was freaked the whole
time. I've been stranded in other more hideous places a couple of times. I try to not let
that happen.
Triana, 29
Austin, TX
USA
I have been physically assaulted, so yes, I
am very afraid of that.
Sapphire, 31
Ft. Lauderdale, FL USA
No, not even after I was attacked. You can
be a victim, or Refuse To Be A Victim (tm), and I refuse. I know how to defend myself.
Nicci, 27
Las Vegas, NV
USA
When I first moved to this area 12 years
ago, I unknowingly moved to a bad part of town. I had to walk home 1/2 mile from the bus
stop every night and was always very frightened. I carried a little compressed air horn in
my purse in case I needed it. Needless to say, we moved out of there as soon as
possible.
Reba, 50+
Silver Spring, MD USA
Yes, I have been. I think it's a natural
part of being a female (being afraid of assault, that is).
Keri-Jade, 21
Brampton, Ontario CANADA
I've
never been afraid of being assaulted, but I have been worried that I was going to get my
ass kicked by a much bigger guy... but that happens sometimes. I usually find a way to
talk my way out of it and have yet had someone really pummel me.
Doug2, 29
Overland Park, KS USA
All the time. It is part of the charm of
living in a big city.
Nicole2, 20
Jackson, FL
USA
Not afraid but I think that this one girl
wants to kick my ass. She won't though, she's all talk. But if she were to try, I wouldn't
let her.
Patty, 19
San Marcos, TX USA
I don't know-I'm aware that it's always a
possibility, but I've never really worried too much about it.
Angela, 18
Bella Vista, AR USA
I suppose I have. . .
Karen, 22
Ames, IA
USA
Yes, but
fortunately I wasn't.
Laura, 37
Lowell, MA
USA
Hmm. No, not for a long time. I used to go
to school with a girl who was constantly threatening to beat me up, but that was in middle
school.
Johanna, 18
OK USA
Yes! Nearly every time I walk around hand in
hand with another boy, I feel threatened by at least one person we encounter.
Eric, 19
Beverly Hills, CA USA
Being over six foot tall, not usually.
Ryan, 28
Riedlingen GERMANY
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