March 24, 2002
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Have you ever been afraid that you would be physically assaulted?

last night I was afraid for my safety... odd this question should come today. I work as a waitress at a bar/restaurant and last night I was working the bar. This big football player type guy kept bothering me and following me around. He boxed me in to the bar as I was trying to leave. He kept telling me I was a nice person and he just wanted to be my "friend"...he was telling me that he knew I was special and that he thought we'd be "a good pair". I got really scared and I didn't want to leave by myself. The bartender asked a friend of his to pose as my boyfriend so I could get out of there without him following me. Very creepy.

Maggie, 22
Sandwich
, IL   USA

Unfortunately, yes. I spent some time married to a man who resorted tophysical abuse when he felt mentally threatened. Two of my stepsons have threatened violence.

Jill, 61
Saylorsburg
, PA  USA

Sometimes. I am definitely more cautious now than when I was younger. I get a bit apprehensive when I go in NYC and I am not sure where I am going. I work in Newark, NJ which is not the safest of places. So I remain alert when I am getting off the train and walking downtown.

Janet, 44
E. Brunswick
, NJ  USA

That was a common and justified fear growing up. Can't say it's happened lately.

Alias Irrelevante

Yes -- I was mugged once. The boys knocked me to the ground, and I feared further attacks, but they just took my handbag and ran.

Jane, 62
West Linn
, OR   USA

I have lived in many "sketchy" areas, travelled cross-country on my own and moved freely in all sorts of environments. I have had very little fear about physical harm. However, I now find myself casually connected to a person who has major beefs with me and have to admit that he strikes me as someone who could easily beat me up if angered.  I don't like the feeling at all.

Felicia, 36
Lowell
, MA   USA

Yes, especially when it is late at night and I am in a dangerous area. I usually don't put myself in that predicament, but it does happen once in a while on accident.

Melodi, 19
Gahanna
, OH   USA

I live in NYC, so it's a real fear that I should have, but I have an enormous sense of security here. Part of it is that I never let myself be in a vulnerable situation alone. When I'm not alone, I know that only 1 person in that entire crowd is likely to be a mugger, so everyone's in the same boat. I come from a small college town, though, and I'm usually more afraid there. A lot of girls get raped walking home from night classes. I think I'm just as unsafe in my small hometown as I am in NYC. Fear is something I can't let show, though, because my chances of being assulted are certainly greater. Carry yourself like you might be the perpetrator and you're not likely to be a victim.

Emily
NYC, NY   USA

Very much so...on several occasions (mostly when I was a teen).  Kinda goes with the territory of growing up in a huge, multi-cultural city during the 60's and early 70s when extreme racial issues were a big part of everyday existence. It's also a part of marrying a wing-nut with major issues! That was like sitting on a powder keg while holding a match. I don't worry about such things anymore.

Fisch, 46
Preston
, CT    USA

Of course, I live in Houston.

Laney
TX  USA

yeah, when i went to Robzombie and Megedeth wearing a bright yellow girls tanktop and red converse sneakers. That and i cut about two hours ahead in the line.

A-Dog, 19
McMinnville
, OR  USA

I'm a woman, I've been afraid several times in my life. One instance: I had a friend ditch me for her boyfriend at 1 AM on University campus. I had no way to get home but to walk alone for about 2 miles. Thankfully nothing happened, but I was freaked the whole time. I've been stranded in other more hideous places a couple of times. I try to not let that happen.

Triana, 29
Austin
, TX   USA

I have been physically assaulted, so yes, I am very afraid of that.

Sapphire, 31
Ft. Lauderdale
, FL  USA

No, not even after I was attacked. You can be a victim, or Refuse To Be A Victim (tm), and I refuse. I know how to defend myself.

Nicci, 27
Las Vegas
, NV   USA

When I first moved to this area 12 years ago, I unknowingly moved to a bad part of town. I had to walk home 1/2 mile from the bus stop every night and was always very frightened. I carried a little compressed air horn in my purse in case I needed it.  Needless to say, we moved out of there as soon as possible.

Reba, 50+
Silver Spring
, MD  USA

Yes, I have been. I think it's a natural part of being a female (being afraid of assault, that is).

Keri-Jade, 21
Brampton, Ontario  CANADA

I've never been afraid of being assaulted, but I have been worried that I was going to get my ass kicked by a much bigger guy... but that happens sometimes. I usually find a way to talk my way out of it and have yet had someone really pummel me.

Doug2, 29
Overland Park
, KS  USA

All the time. It is part of the charm of living in a big city.

Nicole2, 20
Jackson
, FL   USA

Not afraid but I think that this one girl wants to kick my ass. She won't though, she's all talk. But if she were to try, I wouldn't let her.

Patty, 19
San Marcos
, TX   USA

I don't know-I'm aware that it's always a possibility, but I've never really worried too much about it.

Angela, 18
Bella Vista
, AR   USA

I suppose I have. . .

Karen, 22
Ames
, IA   USA

Yes, but fortunately I wasn't.

Laura, 37
Lowell
, MA   USA

Hmm. No, not for a long time. I used to go to school with a girl who was constantly threatening to beat me up, but that was in middle school.

Johanna, 18
OK  USA

Yes! Nearly every time I walk around hand in hand with another boy, I feel threatened by at least one person we encounter.

Eric, 19
Beverly Hills
, CA  USA

Being over six foot tall, not usually.

Ryan, 28
Riedlingen  GERMANY

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