March 15, 2002
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Have you ever betrayed a friend?

I'm sure my friend Lita felt betrayed at a time when she was an emotional mess because she was living with myself and her ex-boyfriend. The ex started dating another woman and bringing her home. Since Lita was sleeping on our couch, and she seemed like a wreck I told her she should leave and go crash with other friends. She really felt like I had chosen the ex over her, when I felt like I was pushing her out of a painful living situation.

Felicia, 36
Lowell
, MA   USA

Yes, sadly. And it wasn't right. And I'm still troubled by it almost six years later.

Keri-Jade, 21
Brampton, Ontario  CANADA

Nearly twenty-five years ago, my husband and I became friends with a couple from Louisiana. The husband was studying to become a preacher and his wife stayed home and kept house. After six weeks, the husband told me that he had had a dream in which he was told that he was supposed to start his own church...and that I was to be his helpmate. He then asked me to kiss him to "seal the deal." I told my husband about the conversation and the next day we went to the Divinity School this guy was attending and reported the conversation to the headmaster. Of course, the guy denied it and we lost a good friend. But at the time, this seemed like the only thing we could do.

Reba, 50+
Silver Spring
, MD  USA

No, can't say that I have. Betrayal is something I've never really wanted to be a part of.

Angela, 18
Bella Vista
, AR  USA

Yes I have...I was young and figured since she had done me wrong I was going to get her back. Now I look back at it and think it was just a waste of time.

Christina
MI  USA

You don't betray friends, you betray associates. Don't think I have.

Alias Irrelevante

Nope. I have loyalty to such a degree it is sometimes a fault in my character.

Triana, 29
Austin
, TX    USA

No, not that I can think of.

Melodi, 19
Gahanna
, OH    USA

I don't know about betraying a friend, but I've talked about them behind their backs and I might have told someone a secret that I wasn't supposed to or something like that.

Kyle

Sadly, yes. And the sex wasn't even worth it.

Nicci, 27
Las Vegas
, NV   USA

Probably.
I don't know about actual betrayal. I'm sure I was snobby to some of my friends up till my early teens, but I can't think of anything I did that was too awful, right off the top of my head. I guess my husband's ex-girlfriend was supposedly my friend--but she never actually liked me anyway. I don't feel that bad about betraying someone who only pretended to like me in the first place--especially in the name of true love.

Karen, 22
Ames
, IA    USA

Unfortunately, Yes. Luckily, I was forgiven and I learned a lot from the experience. I would never do that to a friend again.

Doug2, 29
Overland Park
, KS  USA

does stealing a couple cd's count? i've done that.

A-Dog, 19
McMinnville
, OR  USA

I don't think so. I may have broke a confidence. I do remember struggling with whether or not to tell my best girlfriend that her boyfriend was cheating on her. I did finally tell her.

Janet, 44
E. Brunswick
, NJ  USA

Well yes, in a sense. I was going through a personal trauma back about 10 years ago...my best friend was the brunt of an all-out purging during one of my mood swings. I said things to her (about her) that I still can't believe I said. That's what depression and anxiety can do to a person...I will never welcome that particular illness back into my life again. Ugh!

Fisch, 46
Preston
, CT   USA

Not knowingly.

Jane, 62
West Linn
, OR   USA

no. But they've betrayed me.

Patty, 19
San Marcos
, TX  USA

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