March 3, 2001    





Do you ever feel invisible?

nope, if I have noone to talk too, I talk to myself. I don;t mind being alone by myself.

Stephanie. 25

Yes, I feel invisible quite often...It sometimes seems as if everyone could care less about me or my existence. But then there's a few who will come and say things to make you feel better, but then later you feel invisible again...

Annerae, 15

All the time. But unfortunately, those times when I really do want to feel invisable (ie when I'm getting yelled at by the 'rents, etc), I'm still very visable. pitty.

Jaden, 21
Brampton, Ontario  CANADA

Sometimes, while driving. Seems like several near-misses can occur back to back, none of which would have been any of my doing.

Fisch, 45
, CT   USA

Occasionally. The last time I felt that way consistently, I was on a team with a bunch of junior programmers who felt that anyone not male and under thirty didn't count. The final straw, before I politely but firmly made my presence clearly known, was when they called a meeting to discuss communication problems on the team and neglected to invite me.  Luckily the project head knew better.

Jane, 60
West Linn
, OR   USA

I guess at sometime or another one will feel invisible during a lifetime, but for the most part I would say no. If you asked anyone who knows me well, they would say I am the complete opposite. I always think people are talking about me (in a bad way) whisper and I become paranoid!

Tracy, 24
Ocean City

Invisible meaning nobody notices I'm there? Not unless there's somebody stranger looking in the immediate area. When that happens it's kind of a nice break.

Alias Irrelevante

Nah, not really. Sometimes I can't get in a word edgewise, but. . .

Karen, 21

Not nearly often enough.

Laura, 36
, MA   USA

I occasionally feel invisible--as though no one in the room acknowledges that I exist. This no longer bothers me. Usually the people ignoring me are not people whom I admire or enjoy. I also occasionally feel impotent, powerless, helpless. This emotion is troubling but if I live another 20

Jill, 60

When I lived in NYC, I felt invisible quite often. In a good, blend into the background kind of way. Coming from a small town where everyone knew your business, it came as quite a relieve.

Felicia, 35
, MA   USA

Certainly, and sometimes that's a good thing. Statues hear lots of interesting things.

Firelady, 23
, TX   USA

No, I know everybody can see me.

Jason, 21
, NY   USA

Not literally. I do feel invisible in my home sometimes but that's when I want to be. I need my space and my own personal time, as everyone else.

Cathy, 26
, ND   USA

I used to, sometimes, and when I want to blend in I can. But I don't feel invisible because I hold my head high, know what I'm about, and get involved.

Katie2, 18
, MI   USA

I was invisible one time. I had to hide in my girlfriend's shower because her dad came home early. I felt like a ninja.

A-Dog, 18

Yeah, a lot of the time actually.

Sarah S., 17

Often. Im almost completely invisible at work.

Talia, 23
, CT   USA

I used to alot more than I do now... but yeah sometimes. If I'm with people that I don't know or are mad at me or something along those lines, then yeah. Sometimes I want to be invisible though, it just seems easier to blend in to the background in some cases.

Dianne, 16
Oshawa, Ontario  CANADA

No, don't think so.

etoile, 20

No, but sometimes I wish I was.

Angela, 16
, SC   USA

Well, my job does not lend itself to high visability, so I would say that I feel invisible a fair amount of time. By the same token, I kind of like it that way, at least at times. I would like to think somebody, somewhere,noticed my existence on Earth, but whatever.

Mick, 30
, IL   USA

yes, sometimes i feel like everyone looks past me, like i have a small presence. It can be lonely, or I might feel quietly content, with time to myself.

Naomi, 18

The church I belong to is male-dominated and some of the top men don't seem to feel that women who aren't in high positions, have anything important to say. Around them I feel "invisible".

Reba, 51
, MD   USA

I very often feel invisible. As a member of the queer community, I think I can say queers often feel invisible because we cannot be readily differentiated from those around us. Don't assume that everyone is straight, don't ask everyone if they have a partner of the opposite gender, and don't use the words we use to describe ourselves as synonyms for bad or stupid.

Eric, 18
Beverly Hills

i am the invisible girl..... thanks for the shot to plug my site, hehe. I have always felt that way, I was the typical wallflower in high school. I am coming out of that shell bit by bit now, so not so much anymore.

Maggie, 20
, IL   USA

oh yeah, like all the time. . . Most of the time this is just fine with me. . .When I want to make an impact, make somebody laugh or take notice of my talents or abilities, honestly, I usually don't have any difficulty. . . Sometimes people want me to go out and be entertaining or get dressed up or something, and I do, most of the time. . . but often it's just a drag, I'd rather just be at home in my sweats reading a good biograghy or something . . .

mothmc, 36
Los Angeles

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