February 27, 2001    





If a family member comitted a terrible crime (murder etc), and you knew about it, would you turn them in?

Oh, wow, I'm not sure. I can't imagine anybody in my family doing that. But if they did, I think I'd turn them in.

etoile, 20

Very probably.

Jill, 60


Laura, 36
, MA   USA

at this point in my life, probably yes. . .

mothmc, 36
Los Angeles

That all depends on who the family member is.

Karen, 21

That's another one of those situations I'd have to be in in order to know my reaction. I'd suspect that I'd be wondering about if I should turn them in or not for so long that by the time I made up my mind the cops would already be at the door.

Alias Irrelevante

I'd like to think that I would turn them in, but then would be their for them and support them through the inevitable consequences, but I know that it would be very difficult.

Jane, 60
West Linn

Family is family, but there are definate lines that when crossed family ties mean nothing. If a family member were to murder/rape/abuse someone I would turn them in in a heartbeat.  Put yourself in the shoes of the family members of the victim. Wouldn't you want justice to be done?

Maggie, 20
, IL   USA

I would.

Felicia, 35
, MA   USA

Ouch. I hate to say this, but I don't think I could live with myself if I didn't. It would be horrible beyond words to have to turn my daughter in for something...and it would have to have been something wildly terrible in order to get me to do that...still, I know me and I couldn't sleep or eat if I didn't do the right thing. Mind you, if my ex spit on the subway floor, I'd be the first one pointing a finger at him.

Fisch, 45

I'd tell them to turn themselves in, unless I felt the crime was totally justified and totally secure. If they didn't, I'd probably do it, and tell them I would, because if they got "found out," I'd be considered an accessory after the fact. That's unfair for them to do to me. For a small crime, no I wouldn't ever tell.

Katie2, 18
, MI   USA

First, I would probably go to them and, using my limited powers of persuasion, I would try to convince them to turn themselves in. Failing that, with a guilty conscience, i would have to turn them in. Of course, I cannot imagine ever being in this situation.

Mick, 30
, IL   USA

Definatly! If it was something as serious as murder than they deserve to be punished! I would also be kind of scared of them after that, and would feel alot better if they were in jail. If it was something less serious, than maybe not...

Dianne, 16
Oshawa, Ontario  CANADA

Yes, for their own good as well as the world's.

Talia, 23

Yes. Via Anonymous Tip.

Anjel, 19

Probably-unless I knew they did it in self defense or something. Or if it was my sisters or mom and dad-then I could never do it.

Angela, 16
, SC   USA

Yes. Hopefully that will never be an issue, but yes, I feel that would be too hard to live with.

Firelady, 23
, TX   USA

Absolutly! God forgive those who wouldn't!

Jami, 27
, MA   USA

That would depend on who the family member was, and whether or not they had reason behind what they did. If they were obviously in need of mental treatment then I would definitely get help for them, and I would probably turn them in if it was Murder One. However, if it was a robbery of some sort then I would try not to get involved. It's really hard to answer this question, because I would never really know the answer until it happened.

Gavin, 15

If the crime was still a mystery to police, I would not say anything. And if they were being sought by authorities, I would run to another country w/ them. I believe family can be forgiven but strangers don't agree. People make mistakes.

Stephanie, 25

I've thought about this a couple of days and though my gut instinct is to say "No way!", I guess I'd have to if I wanted to live with myself. But first I'd talk to the individual and try to convince them to turn themselves in, but if they refused I would tell them that if they didn't, I would have to.

Reba, 51
, MD   USA

It really depends a lot on the specific circumstances of the incident.

Eric, 18
Beverly Hills

It depends upon the nature of the crime, and the reasoning behind such a crime, and the family member who commited it.

Adrianne, 15

I think it would have to depend on how terrible the crime was. Killing their rapist...I'd keep mum. Genocide...I'd rat on it.

Jaden, 21
Brampton, Ontario  CANADA

It depends on the family member. If it was someone I wouldn't miss, probably, but otherwise I'd keep it to myself.

Shanna, 15
Cardiff  ENGLAND

No, iwould suggest that they turn themselves in but i wouldn't turn them in.

Jason, 21
, NY   USA

It depends on what the crime was and what the situation was

Melodi, 19
, OH   USA

I would certainly have to wrestle with my conscious with that one. I'm not sure it would depend on circumstances and who it was.

Janet, 42
E. Brunswick

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